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Hey Friends
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Today I want to tell you guys my tips of how to survive Christmas with the family. Even if you don't suffer with anxiety like me, if you just have some members of your family that are just really hard to get along with my sympathy go out to you i know very well whats that's like. I was the 'odd' family member for a long time so getting the weird looks at Christmas is something I'm familiar to.
I want to share with you my tips of getting over those hard to get long with family members.
The first thing i have never done but my dad and brother have both done and that's bring a friend or a new partner that forces the more loud and outgoing member to be on their best behaviour and not cause any arguments.
Never commit to any events that you aren't forced to attend. If you don't need to attend something don't feel pressured to attend, especially when you don't want to or your being forced to by guilt.
This is leading into my next point, don't be guilt tripped into anything you are not comfortable with and you do not want to do.
Come prepared to answer stupid/ annoying questions. If you feel like you need to come prepared with answers to the 'so what are you doing after university?' or the 'Found a boyfriend yet? or girlfriend I'm not judging or as iv seen my cousin do and come up with stupid and funny answers.
Give yourself time out, even if you don't smoke i would fake it and go outside to take a breath. I do this a lot at family advents and i actually did this at my own birthday party because i freaked out with everyone giving me and my brother so much attention, its a good job my brother smokes.
This next one will work if you like kids and kids like you. I used to do this a lot more when we had bigger party's over the holidays but over the last few years our parties get smaller and smaller and I'm now I'm one of the youngest so its not so much of a option for me now but playing and looking after the children at the party will get you out of talking to the family members you don't want to talk to, or if you don't want to talk to anyone at all this is still a good option
Someone who inspired me to write this post is Kati Morton who has done a few videos on this topic and shes super interesting to listen to and shes a professional therapist and shes completely worth the watch.
I want to share with you my tips of getting over those hard to get long with family members.
The first thing i have never done but my dad and brother have both done and that's bring a friend or a new partner that forces the more loud and outgoing member to be on their best behaviour and not cause any arguments.
Never commit to any events that you aren't forced to attend. If you don't need to attend something don't feel pressured to attend, especially when you don't want to or your being forced to by guilt.
This is leading into my next point, don't be guilt tripped into anything you are not comfortable with and you do not want to do.
Come prepared to answer stupid/ annoying questions. If you feel like you need to come prepared with answers to the 'so what are you doing after university?' or the 'Found a boyfriend yet? or girlfriend I'm not judging or as iv seen my cousin do and come up with stupid and funny answers.
Give yourself time out, even if you don't smoke i would fake it and go outside to take a breath. I do this a lot at family advents and i actually did this at my own birthday party because i freaked out with everyone giving me and my brother so much attention, its a good job my brother smokes.
This next one will work if you like kids and kids like you. I used to do this a lot more when we had bigger party's over the holidays but over the last few years our parties get smaller and smaller and I'm now I'm one of the youngest so its not so much of a option for me now but playing and looking after the children at the party will get you out of talking to the family members you don't want to talk to, or if you don't want to talk to anyone at all this is still a good option
Someone who inspired me to write this post is Kati Morton who has done a few videos on this topic and shes super interesting to listen to and shes a professional therapist and shes completely worth the watch.
Let me know any tips you have or have developed over the years for dealing with family and let me know your holidays disasters. If you want me to talk about anything leave a comment or tweet me @p_a_pblog and to be the first to see what iv gotten up to follow my Instagram. Also don't forget to follow my blog to be apart of our little community and to get a email every time i upload so you never miss a post.
Thank you so much for the support
Much love speak soon,
D
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